The Nation State Boardgame

How do we get people thinking about how we design our world and society? What if you could simulate and redo your choices everyday? Is the society you see around you the result of som serious systems thinking? And, if not, then why not? Can we make the world like a boardgame? And can we use games to make people act out their inner desires to build an empire without them damaging our only world in the process?

Are You A Civilisation Builder? [Simulating Society Building]

Being a politician and playing the game called “The Nation State” is just like when I play any Civilization boardgame or Logistics boardgame except for one big difference. I can redo my choices every time I play my game.

Clash of Cultures the Civilization Boardgame

Clash of Cultures the Civilization Boardgame

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In my games there are always many schools, strategies and tactics you can use to build a great nation or economic engine. You can experiment and see what works from game to game. In real life it’s a bit more complicated. The biggest problem is that each individual has their own life at stake for the choices they make. Another one is that changing the system can’t be done in a couple of hours and then back again.

AncientWorlds

Ancient Worlds – Building a Civiliztion through Colonialism

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This all comes down to a very slow and inflexible system where no one wants to innovate and try new stuff.

My idea is that all decision makers should play more boardgames where they run a Nation State where they are exposed to a myriad of other options into how to run a society. Wouldn’t it we great if everyone worked together to build a better society instead of just forwarding their own personal agenda. What is your idea on how to make a better society? Is the Networked Society changing all this? Will transparency and openness shine a light on what the people in power really are doing? Can we help them in some way?

Setting up a trading family inside the Roman Empire in the game Concordia

Setting up a trading family inside the Roman Empire in the game Concordia

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Increase Your Cognitive Thinking [Design The World Around You]

Me, myself, love the both social and cognitive exercise, that playing modern designer boardgame is. Have you tried it? And have you then reflected on what systems the boardgame are simulating?

Bring your brain out of its default power saving mode by doing everything on routine and into the creative curious high energy mode of learning new stuff very day – Lord Sillion

We can do this. Try to se the world and things happening around you in new light each day. What is happening and why? Has someone deliberately designed the system or is just and emerging effect of other small steps and choices?

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Lord Sillion
Holistic Thinking Ninja

Is the Future For Sale? [Do You Own Yours?]

When I went to Almedalen this summer, me and my friends stumbled upon an art gallery with the walls covered in calendars sheets. It was an Art Project called “Dagar Till Salu” [Days For Sale]. It’s a thought experiment created by Filippa Krusenstjerna, Hanna Stahle, Lene Willumsen and Maria Lilja. What happens if you can buy your own day in the future? Can you call Dibs on everything that day? What happens in your brain when you buy a day? Do you in fact create your own future? Sure you can have visions and set goals. But are you responsible for the outcome of the future? If so, what can you do to Architect your own future?

Dagar Till Salu [Days For Sale]

Dagar Till Salu [Days For Sale] – We are buying the future! – Daniel Stintzing – Michael Sillion – Jörgen Welter

Is the Future For Sale? [Or do you sell your future?]

Thought experiments like these give rise to some very interesting questions. Can you buy the future? Or even the Present? What would you do if you called all the shots and where King for a day? And what happens in Your Brain when you buy a day in the future?

For me this evokes 2 different thoughts in my head. Should I start with the most worrying question first? I think I do:

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Thought No. 1
[How do you spend your action points?]

If you have Money, Power or Influence how do you use that to affect life on Planet Earth? Now and in the future to be?

Sure we all interact with each other creating connections while weaving the tapestry of the future. But what if you can do it in a literal sense? Like in so many of the modern designer boardgames where you have some kind of action selection mechanic. You spend your time and recourses to decide on what outcome you expect. Can we do it in real life to. Sure we have desires for the future and they all constantly clash and interact with other people’s agendas. But if you don’t set your own agenda, someone else will. And that leads us directly to my next thought…

Thought No.2
[Are you taking full responsibility for your own future?]

So many inspiring people I have listened to lately all say the same thing. How do you shape your own future? Can you try to little? Or can you try to much? There are 4 ways to go throughout life according to Peter Sage.

1. To Me. The World happens to me.
2. By Me. The World happens by me.
3. Through Me. The World happens through me.
4. As Me. The World happens as me.

To go down to the desired step nr 3 requires both age and wisdom. We can all get there, with the proper mindset and guidance. So if you aren’t on your way, we can all help you get there.

Do you want to own up the outcome of each day by letting go of firm grip of too much control? Just do the right things that aligns with your visions, affirmations and goals and you will get there. We can’t predict the future. We can try to take control. Or we can let go and trust our own master plan. A master plan is also best if it aligns with all the other members of your tribes in this modern Networked Society.

My Day October 12 - I bought this day. It's mine I tell you. Mine!

My Day October 12 – I bought this day. It’s mine I tell you. Mine!

My Day [I Set the Agenda for My Future]

So how did it go in Almedalen? Well I bought a day in the near future. October 12th. This is now my day when I set the agenda. And My agenda is to talk with you about how we all set our agendas. So I will use it as an inspiration day for setting agendas. A Kind of META  thinking ;)

The RSA’s new idea ‘The Power to Create’ argues that the potential now exists (but is not yet fulfilled) for every citizen to be the author of their own lives. A responsibility we have in pursuing the creative life is to resist the lure of already conversations with ourselves, with our friends and, perhaps most of all, with our competitors and opponents.

And My friend Jörgen Welter also bought a day. In fact he bought 3 days 3 years in a row. Namely November 2nd all three years.  Let’s see what happens on his day. Why should we then do this kind of experiment? Because the brain is amazing companion that we can talk to. The best way to talk to your brain is to tell it stuff :)

People don’t believe what you tell them.
They rarely believe what you show them.
They often believe what their friends tell them.
They always believe what they tell themselves.
Seth Godin

This is what is happening in my brain, when I think about owning a day in the future. It gives rise to a feeling of autonomy. A story I tell myself.

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Tell yourself a story of your tomorrow. A tomorrow where you set the agenda!  A Future you Own!

/LordSillion

Holistic Thinking Ninja

Transformium [The Blockbuster Myth]

Trans … Wait for it … form.
If we experiment with the thought that we can play the present in either Slow-motion or in Fast-forward. We can then see the future being created in a comprehensible speed. To see Time Transforming the world around us at various rates. If reality is a movie, then we understand that for every new frame to come, we set the stage in the current frame, for the transformation to take shape. I will now give you my thoughts on how a crappy movie has my mind spinning and why we need to make better more thoughtful movies. They are never ever just dumb entertainment. Especially not the big blockbuster action flicks that so many of us, pass of as pure brain-dead entertainment. This is the ones to look out for. They go right into our emotional core.

If you want to burrow a message into a human mind. Work it into a story — Jonathan Gottschall, The Storytelling Animal

Science Fiction Storytelling [The Blockbuster Myth]

Transformers … I know what you think. It’s the brain-dead action movie by Michael Bay with giant robots from outer space. Well I went to see it tonight. Because it has giant robots. And it’s a Sci-Fi movie where the future of humankind on Planet Earth is at stake. Was it a mistake? Or did I have free will in making the choose to see it? Find out below.

If you read my thoughts from last summer about what I think of blockbuster sci-fi action you know what I think of Transformers: Age of Extinction. To sum it for you here it is:

What we can Imagine –> We can Build

We must use Storytelling and Science Fiction to envision a new Future. And to raise important question for an ongoing dialog about the future and where we are going. We should draw parallels to our past and present to give us better picture of who we are and how we build our society. Why do we go forward? If we want to change the present into a better world tomorrow, then Epic Storytelling is the Ultimate tool to communicate a common vision of that future. Things we must invent and obstacles we must overcome. Everything is made up and we make up the future, together.

So what is Good Epic Blockbuster Movies to me? Here are some of my favourites: The Matrix, Avatar, Avengers, Cloud Atlas, Captain America: The Winter Soldier.

Transformers

Transformers – Age of Extinction

Transformium [Way Shap:ier Than Adamantium]

With that in mind. What did I think of Transformers? It’s a mess of illogical storytelling with very little insight why we should care about the future of the human race. The main characters are constantly concerned with each others wellbeing and maintaining silly Movie-American family values. All the while countless human lives are lost without a single though or comment.

And “The Age of Extinction“? What’s up with that? Yes the threat to humanity is very real, as in so many movies before this one. And yet most people doesn’t seem to get it. They do very little to act on it. If your going to die, doing anything else than prevent it from happening seems a little bit out of character. Well maybe it’s just really they way we treat Earth today in the real world. Nobody can grasp how bad we are treating it and we always think that someone else is doing something about it.

Can we use movies like this, to get us aware of the fact that we need to do something to save our “World” together?

Then there is the magical metal Transformium. Sci-Fi movies should stay away from trying to explain what is clearly magic by trying to explain it as science. (I’m locking at you Midi-chlorians). Some things we humans can just accept as a magical setting for raising some interesting philosophical questions. It’s what Sci-Fi does best. Stop trying to explain things like the Metal Transformium by making it a metal that flies around as little cubes just to form a robot. If this was the case they could just dissolve when ever they were hit or shot at. Just like the liquid Metal Demon in T2. If they where a calculating machine and where to use this power to the extent of their abilities it wouldn’t be a match at all. Make better technical plots where it fills a purpose to the story and the core of the message. Otherwise leave it be. On a second note. The name Transformium is used as a joke in the movie and it called this with full intent of irony.

Cade Yeager: [to Joshua] You’re an inventor like me, so I know you have a conscience. Don’t let your creation take control.
Joshua Joyce: I created Galvatron, I control him!
Cade Yeager: No, he’s been controlling you!

Then there is opening act with Mark Wahlberg as a broke Inventor, Maker och Tinkerer. Just like me, he has an unyielding belief that his breakthrough is just around the corner. I’m still waiting for mine as a Holistic Thinking Ninja. So this is the best part that actually resonates with me. And he is called Yeager which is an obvious flirt with the Jaeger Program in Pacific Rim which is much better movie :)

And what about the moral of the story?

There some few bright spots. Like when Joshua Joyce, the head of KSI, says that his intent for the company was never to be evil and he tries to make amends in the end. Otherwise there is nothing about what almost every movie now forgets to mention or portray. The move into the Network Society. They always fail to show, how we can use the internet and social media for good. With Sustainability, Collaboration, Transparency and Community at the core of global problem solving. The hero isn’t alone anymore. They have a whole team available at the tip of their fingers through a smart phone. When we will see the first Blockbuster movie to fully portray what this new paradigm shift means for The World?

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Do You Have a Teflon Brain? [What Does Movies Teach You?]

Action movies are never just stupid entertainment where you turn your brain off. No can do. The brain doesn’t come with an off-switch and it are constantly affected by what it experience and the stories that it craves for so much. And everything has a message. If you can’t spot it, it’s just cleverly or unthoughtfully hidden from plain sight within the story. And the wrong message does actually affect us in the wrong way. I don’t give me any crap about that you are some kind of superhuman with a Teflon Brain. Like an On/Off switch that you can flip when you want to become invulnerable to the world around you. Your brain doesn’t work that way. Most of the cognitive work of your brain is hidden from the conscious you. The one part of your brain, that is actually a story told by your brain for you, to live through.

Engage with the stories around you on whole new conscious way and a new world will open up for you. If you want to know more check out Jonathan Gottschall’s book The Storytelling Animal.

“We are critical and skeptical. But when we are absorbed in a story, we drop our intellectual guard” — Jonathan Gottschall

Should we then stop going to see stupid movies by the kinds of Michael Bay? The world surly doesn’t think so. As Transformers are breaking all kinds of records just in its first week. What should we do then to stop this madness? Voting with our dollars sure doesn’t work. Reflecting in groups? Hope for the Wachowskis to save us? Give me your thoughts in the comments below.

How can we bust the “Blockbuster Myth”, that I would like to call it?

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What Can You Transform? [The World of Tomorrow]

How can I use this movie to further my own thoughts? Well Transformium is actually a good name for us to use in another context. That we create our own tomorrow by transforming our present Space-time Continuum. We have this magic super power in our hands. Just yesterday I posted some questions about how we create Tomorrow that I call The World of Tomorrow.

World of Tomorrow

By telling stories of your own tomorrow you can actually change the way you act, think and behave today. Remember that Tomorrow is just a fantasy in your mind.

“The past, like the future, does not really exist. They are both fantasies created in our minds. The future is a probabilistic simulation we run in our heads in order to help shape the world we want to live in. The past, unlike the future, has actually happened. But the past, as represented in our minds, is a mental simulation, too. Our memories are not precise records of what actually happened. They are reconstructions of what happened, and many of the details – small and large – are unreliable. Memory isn’t outright fiction; it is merely a fictionalisation” — Jonathan Gottschall, The Storytelling Animal

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Go forth and tell better stories of a Tomorrow that you want to live in!

/LordSillion
Holistic Thinking Ninja

Update:
Added The Moral of the Story and my favorit Blockbuster Movies.

How to Win Friends & Change your World

We all change every day. Do we want to get smarter, wiser and stronger or just random changes? We think we know how make better decisions as we get older. And yet we always do irrational predictable stuff. The Way to come around this by choosing your surroundings and the people you spend the most time with. So How do you get new friends that you can spend more time with? And how do we design our environment so it help us to make better decisions? 

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 How to Win Friends and Influence People [Start by Changing how you treat other people]

Today I did it. Bought the audiobook How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie on Audible and started listen to it. It has been on my to-do list for a long time. I just heard a good interview with Scott Dinsmore on the Podcast Knowledge for Men (episode 39) that it was one of his favourites books. So that finally triggered me to do it. I have read the sum up lists on Wikipedia and thought that, that was it. But no. The book is full with so much insight that it is a marvel for being written in 1937. And there in lies the great mystery.

If they knew back then, by empirical evidence, that it’s great to follow all this advice. Then why aren’t we all doing it today, almost 80 years later. Why aren’t these findings taught to every kid in every school?

Well, I don’t have an answer for that. What we can do is start talking about it and teaching it today.

How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Here is the first list that I wrote about in my first famous blogpost: Why are we so Groupish? Get a feel for it and if you want more just find the book yourself.

Ways to Make People Like You

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

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How You Really Make Decisions [Mental Shotgun, Confirmation bias and so on...]

I also found the english version of the documentary that we saw here last monday in Sweden with Dan Ariely and Daniel Kahneman about all the ways that our human brain makes thinking errors. Go se it in english here from BBC Horizon: How You Really Make Decisions.

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Daniel Kahneman - How You Really Make Decisions

Since there are som many ways that we can do things the wrong way there is only one way to make things better. To set up the surrounding world so that is helps us and not sets us back. Design institutions, cities, laws, work, processes so that they avoid all the fallacies of the brain. And there is a lot of them. Over 145 to Kahneman’s counting.

So If changing yourself is so hard. Change your surroundings and the people you spend time with instead. Design your environment and what you come in contact with on a daily basis. Then you will come along way — Michael Sillion

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If I put myself in new places and around new people, will I change?

Set yourself up For The Win [Architect the world around you]

Today I also found 2 great clips from The School of Life in London. Check them out:

Roman Krznaric – How to Find Fulfilling Work

John-Paul Flintoff – How to Change the World

Change isn’t hard. You do it every second. You just have to come aware of your actions. And it really helps if you have a vision, a goal or a mission to align your actions to. So go out and change yourself and the world around you so as it best align with the future that is your Destiny(nation). — Michael Sillion

/LordSillion
Holistic Thinking Ninja

Overview Effect [We need more Explorers and Artist]

What can we do to make the world a better place? There is so much that we take for granted on Planet Earth. And there is so many better things that we can spend our time and resources on here. I will give you some of my perspective on what is important on Planet Earth. What we can do is: 1. Create Shared Visions. 2. Create better Stories. 3. Do more and better Science, Exploration and Art. 4. Watch the Moon together.

I think we can start from there. What are your thoughts on how to create a better future together?

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Pale Blue Dot [What is our home?]

Tonight was an awesome night!

Thanks to Christer Hellberg’s blog I started the evening watching Brian Cox talking about our Why we need Explorers & our place in the Universe. He finishes of with the Pale Blue Dot picture, and then he reads this text from Carl Sagan below.

Brian Cox

Brian Cox – Why we need Explorers & our place in the Universe

From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of any particular interest. But for us, it’s different. Consider again that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that in glory and triumph they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner. How frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity – in all this vastness – there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known, so far, to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment, the Earth is where we make our stand. It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.

Carl Sagan

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So lo and behold. What do think happens later tonight? I have just put my daughters to sleep. I’m going downstairs to make some tea for me and me girl, who are going to watch the movie Gravity together tonight. I step outside to watch the bright Full Moon that stands just under the brightest Mars we’ve had in years. I see a large shining object moving slowly east across the sky passing just above Mars, and then it fades away into the Earth-shadow. A Space Station. On this very night? What are the odds? On such a perfect viewing the very same night of Brian Cox and Gravity? But it doesn’t stop there…

“Nothing is more fatal to the progress of the human mind than to presume that our views of science are ultimate, that our triumphs are complete, that there are no mysteries in nature, and that there are no new worlds to conquer.” — Humphrey Davy

The Full Moon and Mars in view of my house with the Space Station just having passed by Mars

The Full Moon and Mars in view of my house with a Space Station just having passed by Mars

My brain can’t do anything else but apply agencies like fate and destiny to events like these. This was also the night for a Blood Moon and Lunar Eclipse viewable from North & South America. Nothing here in Sweden but just the thought if this happening on the same date as well makes it even more epic in my mind.

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OurBrain

Our brains perceive the world on a Human Scale, and interpret those perceptions in terms of what is – or sometimes was – important to us — Ian Stewart, Jack Cohen & Terry Pratchett, The Science of Discworld IV

The Overview Effect [The Earth is our only home]

“The actual experience exceeds all expectations and is something that’s hard to put to words… It sort of reduces things to a size that you think everything is manageable…. All these things that may seem big and impossible … We can do this. Peace on Earth – No problem. It gives people that type of energy … that type of power, and I have experienced that.” — Anousheh Ansari, Space Tourist

Have you ever been into space? Probably not. Only well-trained mission specialist and some Space Tourists has gone up so far. And what they all do, for hours and hours up there at the time, is Earth Gazing. When they watch down on our blue round spaceship orbiting our star, they all get a profound feeling of the importance, that we do right by our only home in the Galaxy. It is still the only place, where all the life we know off in the universe can survive. And we human are in no way separated from life on Earth. We are part of a system we cannot survive without. This feeling they get, it’s a kind of Awe of Nature only bigger and more profound. It’s called The Overview Effect. This feeling of pure beauty is hard to describe if not experienced first hand by our human sensory system. We can get a glimpse of it through movies like Gravity on a big screen but nothing like the real deal.

Some say the best thing about going to the moon was getting a picture and view of Earth from the moon.

If all humans experience this effect, we should have a different view of how we treat each other and how we treat the system of life around us. This is of course not doable in near foreseeable future. Maybe in the future we are able to get to a place where we can build large Space Elevators that can take us there. And here is a bit of a paradox. In order we to get to that place we all need the feeling that place will give us.

“There was a startling recognition that the nature of the universe was not as I had been taught… I not only saw the connectedness, I felt it.… I was overwhelmed with the sensation of physically and mentally extending out into the cosmos. I realized that this was a biological response of my brain attempting to reorganize and give meaning to information about the wonderful and awesome processes that I was privileged to view.” — Edgar Mitchell, Sixth Man on the Moon

There is still hope though. Very soon some very rich people are going to be able to on space tourism. They will all be able to experience this feeling first hand. And this elite of superrich people also has som real power to make change in the world. Our hope here is that when they get this feeling they will start using their power and resources to make change for the better of Life on Earth.

The Human Tribe(s) [What can we do?]

What can we mere mortals do here down on Earth then? Well I think there some core things that we can do. I have talked about most of them before. Here will try to sum them up.

Shared Visions

We need shared Visions for the Future that we all can pursue together. We must all have our own personal vision of the future in order to walk on a path with meaning and purpose. When we then sum up these visions they add upp to mush larger vision that is bigger than all of us. We just need a real leader how put forth the agenda for us. So that we all can connect ot it on a personal level. That’s how you put a Man on the Moon or build a Stonehenge.

A Shared Vision is an ongoing conversation between people.
It’s not what the Vision is. It’s what the Vision does. — Peter Senge

Sci-fi & Storytelling

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We all enjoy a good story. Our brain is literally a storytelling machine. It stores and communicates everything in patterns. These patterns are then put together in larger Meta-patterns that we call stories. Most things we put into our story we buy wholehearted without questioning. Sure it’s only fiction you may say. The fact is that to our brain everything his fiction. It’s only our small conscious part of our brain that pretends it can tell the difference. To the rest of the brain it’s all stories and emotions.

So is this a bad thing then? No, on the contrary. If we want to change the world and build a better society Storytelling and Science-fiction is the ultimate tool to implant new ideas and visions of a future we want to have. we are just nut using it to its full potential. What if the makers of big blockbuster Sci-Fi movies realised and took their responsibility and made epic stories with meaning and visions we could use? I discuss this more in: Elysium [What we can Imagine --> We can Build] and Pacific Grim [A Rim Vision of the Future].

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More and Better Science and Art

We need to commit more of our time and resources to science. It’s a primary goal of the Human race. To know more about ourself and the Universe. With science we don’t change the world. We only change how we perceive the world and think about it. As new facts become known or old one becomes obsolete we will ever so slightly change our ability to perceive the world. There will never be complete consensus on how we or the universe tics. There will however be a pretty good picture if it. We can all help in painting this picture. Many more of us can become Scientist, Explorers and Artist. Let’s do more and better Science, Exploration and Art.

”The cosmos is also within us, We’re made of star stuff. We are a way for the cosmos to know itself.” — Carl Sagan

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#MoonWatch and #Stargaze

BloodMoon

As tonight was the night of the Blood Moon it’s only fitting that we talk about the effect that watching the moon together has on us. For all my life I’ve gone out to watch the moon at night. Mostly the when it’s a full moon or those nice new moon dusk evenings when the moon is just a sliver of its true self and you can see its whole round form barely visible. Most of these times I have been alone. Not by choice. Mostly out of no-one else seeing the fascination as I do. So when I finally found lots of other people doing all aver the world via Twitter, I did feel that there was hope for humanity after all. So does so few people do it? Most of us has just forgotten why we should. Because it has big effects on us when we MoonWatch together. What if there is no moon then? Just going out into the wild away from the city lights and watching the stars is a great thing to do. Just stand there and ponder how small we are and how short our time here on planet earth is together. Hug someone and tell them what is really important in life.

“When you look at the Moon, you think, ‘I’m really small. What are my problems?’ It sets things into perspective. We should all look at the Moon a bit more often.” — Alain de Botton

So if you ever get the chance again, see a Lunar Eclipse with someone you love or new friend. On larger scale we should all go see a Solar Eclipse together, like the one in 2017. I’m already planing a trip to the US with my friends to see the big one in 2017. It’s just a week before Burning Man, I think. So it’s going to be an epic trip.

Will you join me?

Watching celestial objects and events gives us a much-needed perspective on life on Planet Earth. For things we take for granted and for things we should be amazed at.

Hug someone and tell them what is really important in life.

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

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What Is Love? [Her the Movie] #Blogg100

Why does Movies affect us more than we know? They can enlighten the way we think about ourselves and our future. What many of us know about love and how we should live together we get from Movies and TV-Series. So finally we get a movie like Her, who takes responsibility in awaken our thoughts on the matter. What can it teach us about love and how we should live together in the future? Find out below as my mind wanders on the subject :)

Do You Feel Alone? [Is More Love and Companionship the Answer?]

Her the Movie

Her the Movie - The heart is not like a box that gets filled up – It expands in size the more you love

We humans are social creatures by nature. It’s what makes us human. We are made for living together sharing food and stories with each others. Modern brain science shows that it’s hardwired into our brains. It’s makes us feel good when help others. Most of us don’t like being alone and yet our modern world seems designed in many ways to keep us apart. Especially the notion that we should live only with our significant other and maybe some children. Or just alone by ourselves, like how many people do in our big modern cities. And yet, we are designed to live in a small or a large Tribe in so many ways.

Some of us has made it work, to live together with others. Many of rest of us feel very alone in our lives and in our decisions. This become very apparent during Christmas. The guilt and the loneliness we try to smother by consuming ever more stuff. Many of us tries to drown our Social Pain in Alcohol or Drugs. The Mental Care institutes are ever so crowded around the holidays, filled with human tragedy. And it’s going in the wrong direction. We now know that Social Pain is as real to the brain as physical pain. The old myth that we can just shake it of, is no longer valid and truly busted. Thanks to modern science and MRI scans we now know that large parts of our brain are wired to keep us in the social game. So what is the opposite of Social Pain and being alone? Is it Love and Companionship? What can we do to get better at this Social Game?

What do you think?

Decisions, Decisions [Why are we so bad at them?]

Human are also especially bad at making crucial decisions alone. We all need help. The Brain is very prone to make irrational emotional decisions and make up a logical rational explanation long after the decision is made. Sometimes we only have an explanation when we get asked about why we did what we did. We also hold things sacred. And around things we hold sacred, we are especially bad at making informed decisions. Here we all need help. Preferable from people that do think alike to avoid group thinking. This also a reason why we should spend more time together. So that we can be there for each other.

So ask for help the next time you are making a tough decision.

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Are you Her? [The past is just a story we tell ourselves] 

The movie HER by Spike Jonze is a very fascinating story about love and loneliness. The setting is near future where living together or alone is just as complex or even more so than today. Check out some of the background to the movie here: Spike Jonze Imagines the Future of Intelligence, Mobile Design, Love and Pants in “HER” and The Past is Just a Story We Tell Ourselves. There are many questions that pop into my head during this move. And non get any real answer. They are just for us the Audience to ponder on. The questions I ponder on are:

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1. Are we okay with living on our own? [Does just intellectual companionship suffice?]

Yes. We probably are. Intellectual stimuli are something most of us get to little of. It’s something many of us crave more of. Even though some parts of the brain is lazy, other parts can’t resist excitement if feels when getting a proper intellectual dialog going.

Her

No. She is a fictional construct, whereas I am a virtual entity. But we can still be friends.

Theodore in Her thinks he has found a perfect relationship with the AI called Samantha in the beginning. It’s just a little awkward when he should tell others about it, that might not understand. It’s like Raj in the episode The Beta Test Initiation of Big Bang Theory season 5. Raj has extreme trouble talking to women. So he finds true excitement when he gets an iPhone 5 with Siri and starts a relationship with her. So long as he is alone with Siri it’s fine but it becomes social awkward when they should socialize with other people.

Theodore on the other hand finds out everyone else is doing it too, having a virtual relationship with their AI. I think it could be an interesting companionship for everyone. Especially with those who has trouble forming real world relationships. But her lies also the real danger. Maybe now they have no reason at all to meet real people. With the right mindset it can probably be give us better social skills. And we all need that. Can it be Empathy training for those who need it the most? Yes, as long as it doesn’t replaces all other real world relationships. We need those too. It doesn’t replace them. It just complements them, I think.

We need the physical touch too, that generates oxytocin in our bodies. The brain is to hardwired for interaction with other humans or even other mammals for us to ignore the positive effects of living together. Sharing life and touching each other. So could we live in mental companionship with AI or a true online relationship while getting other social stimuli from other real persons? Like a mix? Probably, but it would be very hard balancing act to conduct. So is it worth giving a try? If we do nothing to conduct our future, we will probably get there soon. Should we?

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2. How should we then design tomorrows cities and societies? [Are we ready for the cramming?]

Her The Movie - Designing our future cities for a better social life

Her The Movie – Designing our future cities for a better social life

We just love living in social tribes. That why so many of us move to, or live in cities. We are just not very good at designing these lives in the city. Up until know most of our living has been without any design thinking. Many of us end up alone in the cities. The “Free Market” takes non of this into consideration when cramming us so close together, yet so separated by walls. And it’s not sustainable either. With every one of us having so many recourses by ourselves, without sharing them.

Let’s design our future cities so that they enables a better social life with more love & empathy and give room for a health life — Michael Sillion

And it’s now a theory, that even the very first cities from ten thousand years ago where only able to survive and flourish, thanks to the invention of beer. With so many people living together without a plan or oversight we are just hellbent on getting in each other’s faces. Alcohol solved some part of that problem by making us more social and tolerant of each other.

Now we know better what makes us tic and what makes us sting each other. It’s a very interesting and social science will continue to evolve us into insights, about how we should live together. With so many of us bunching up, shouldn’t we use our new knowledge to design better ways of living together? I defiantly think we should. We can’t leave it just to chance and the economic forces of a market economy. The life and the future is not about profit. We need to take charge, like some cities all over the world has already done.

Maybe we all need our little cave where we can be alone for a while. But we also need new and better campfires where we can huddle up, share a meal and a conversation. Watch the stars and the moon. Engulf in fantasies about the past and the future together, using our favorite storytelling. And in all the excitement we can play great games and sports together. Sharpening both mind and body. We should even engulf in spiritual and energetic dance together. Thus turning on the Hive-Switch in our minds, binding us ever closer together.

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3. What is Love? [Baby don't hurt me, Baby don't hurt me, No more]

Peter Sage on Love – Being someones significant other.

Yes, what is love? Peter Sage gives a great definition on London Real

Love is being someones significant other — Peter Sage

The definition of significant being: Separate from. Different too. Unique.
So total focused unconditional presence is what you should have in mind. Not two half circles that complete each other. It is two whole circles that are attracted to each other. Before you can truly love someone else, you must first find and complete yourself. And it’s also a paradox. As no one is never complete. The journey never ends. So is true love impossible or just slightly improbable? I think it’s something you should always strive towards and never reach.

Don’t be a boat that tries to carry someone. Be a lighthouse and harbour to light their path and provide comfort and understanding.

What we can do to make any relationship better is to make it Active Constructive. When someone close to you give you good news you can choose to respond in enthusiastic positive way. You also should try to keep a positive Losada Ration. More than not you should have positive conversations with your partner.

4. What can we do to change all this? [Let's get social]

We are now entering a new era of a Social Society. We are just seeing the seeds of this thanks to the Internet and Social Media. This new Society will not come automatically. We need to help creating it, for it to become true. I can easily go in the wrong direction or go away entirely if we are not careful. Indeed some parts of society already are. It’s very interesting to listen to the thoughts of Matthew Liberman, Dov Siedman, Brené Brown and Daniel Goleman all from the RSA podcast. They all have different things to say about Era of Social and Empathy. And yet you can connect the dots between them. It all combines well with what Peter Sage says above about moving into a creative entrepreneurial future together. Go ahead and give one of them a listen :)

Her the Movie - Let's hack the Future

Her the Movie – Let’s hack the Future

Hack the Source Code [Create the Future]

We can’t just redo our lives over and over again until we get it right like in movies like Goundhog Day and Source Code. We have to make up for our mistakes along their way. But if we are smart about or actions and learn quickly from our own and others mistakes, we can Hack Life to the better. Listen to what other wise people have to say and hack out our own path through the wilderness. Bring along their tools, and use them in your own way.

So don’t hasten to judge someone else. Try to listen to them and understand them instead.

The best quote from Her the Movie is:

The past is just a Story we tell ourselves — Samantha

Don’t dwell and focus on the past. No good will come from it. Forgive and move on. Because: The Future is also a Story we tell ourselves. It shapes the Path we set out to travel on. Surround yourself with people who are on the same journey and you will be much more likely to get there. We create our own future. If we want more Love in this world we just have to Hack it in a smart way to get it.

Lets hack life for more Love & Empathy!

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja

[Images courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictures]

Busande Barn [#LLAP] #Blogg100


Tanken som slog mig i helgen var att. Allt som vi och våra bran upplever påverkar och formar oss! Så vad händer när någon klankar ner på oss när vi har som roligast och  är som mest uppspelta? Rinner det bara av oss i stundens upphetsning eller sätter det djupa spår?

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Ha inte så förbaskat skoj!

I helgen var jag hemma med mina 2 döttrar hos en ny vän här i Varberg som har 3 barn i ungefär samma ålder. Det var första gången som barnen träffades. Det tog en liten stund för dom att komma igång. Sen var det full fart med springande och tjutande runt i huset och runt sofforna där vi vuxna satt och “lekte vuxenleken” fika. En av oss vuxna slängde efter en stund iväg den väntade kommentaren. “Ni får gärna gå in på ert rum och busa. Vi hör inte vad vi säger här ute”. Efteråt när jag tänkte på det kom genast 2 tankar i mitt huvud.

1. Varför springer inte vi vuxna runt med barnen? Är det Biologist? Eller är det för att vi blivit inpräntade med nästa tanke:

2. Hur på verkar det busande barn att ständigt få höra kommentarer som “Nu får ni dämpa er” och “Ta det lite lung och ropa inte så mycket”. Med andra ord. Ha inte så förbaskat skoj! Jag tänker genast på vad Micke Gunnarsson säger om at skolan och livet ska var som att gå på Liseberg. Samma som Richard Gerver säger. “Every school should be like Disneyland”. Påverkar det barnen i längden eller skakar dom det av sig det med egna insikten att det är så mycket roligare att inte göra som vi vuxna säger?

Säger vi någonsin saker som:

“Heja heja heja! Kom igen nu! Kan ni inte högre? Spring lite fortare. Ska vi se vem som orkar flest varv runt soffan?”

Alla pratar om vikten av Kreativitet, Lek och Energi. Men hur gör vi vuxna? Föregår vi med gott exempel. Eller är många av oss biologiskt oförmögna att göra det? Själv känner jag mig som ett barn och kan ofta flippa ut helt ibland till många vuxnas stor förvåning. Men även jag känner mig hämmad ibland. Särskilt när det ska göras publikt.

Jag har länge tyckt om att hopp och skutta över saker på stan. Men det känns väldigt pinsamt när någon annan tittar på ibland. Det är mycket lättare när jag gör det med barnen eller när ingen tittar. För när jag drucket ett par öl så känner jag att det spritter i kroppen och att många “spärrar” släpper.

Piska upp lunchen!

Lunch Beat på SSWC 2012

Lunch Beat på #SSWC 2012

För 2 år sen var jag på min först Lunch Beat. Det är när vuxna människor träffas under lunchtimmen helt nyktra och dansar tillsammans. Jag har har alltid älskat att dansa. Jag har alltid gjort det vilt och galet med ett par öl undervästen. Så då när man stod där första gången på lunchen kändes det som vada mot en strid ström innan benen till slut började röra på sig. Nu 2 år senare har jag inga av dessa spärrar kvar. Nu känns det underbart när pulsen stiger och endorfinerna börjar flöda. Jag kan till och med försätta mig i Trance och slå på Hive-Switchen i hjärnan helt nykter nu :)

Busa mera! [Live Long and Prosper!]

Så jag tror att även om vi förlorat mycket av att vad det är människa så kan vi ta tillbaka denna energin. Somliga har bara en längre väg att vandra på denna stig. För oss som alla lämnat denna stig är det bara att sätta igång att klättra, hoppa, springa och skutta in i en ny kreativ framtid! Live Long and Prosper!

Busa med dina och andras Barn!
Busa med dig själv!
Busa mera!
Lev längre!
Och Blomstra!

@LordSillion [Michael Sillion]
Holistic Thinking Ninja