On what level do you experience the world? Are you stuck in fixed mindset or are you growing yourself, your mind and the people around you? Get out of victim mode. Even the most “successful” people in the world has bad days. They are working hard not be there for long and stay in the “Through Me” or “As Me” mode as much as the can. And so should you!
I also recorded a new pod in English about Hacking Your Future.
Level Up Your Consciousness
In what mode to you view the world and everything that is happening? What is your attitude towards events and your level of control over them? A long favorite of mine, Peter Sage, explains in such a great way in this 5 minute clip from the long talk with Peter Sage on London Real where he explains 4 the levels of awareness in which you interact with the world. And it’s well worth it to listen his whole talk on London Real.
These levels are in some way correlated to Robert Kegan’s research on the five orders of consciousness. Where by training your brain in various ways creates a lot more connections between your synapses over the years and thereby reaching new levels of consciousness. Give him a listen on the RSA. Or read about his 5 levels here. The 4th level ‘Self-Authoring’ Mind and the 5th level ‘Self-Transforming’ Mind is in some way connected with Peter’s 3rd and 4th level. You can get there faster by the right stimuli but it is still going to take years and you are likely to get there by midlife.
Get to it, and start level up your own mind and help elevate your core group around you.
1 – To Me – Victim Mode
This is the Victim mode. Were the world happens to you. You are not in control of your own fate and your are constantly blaming others and world events for your demise. This is a very hard mode to get out of. It has very much to-do with the people that surround you. Oftentimes is it essential that you upgrade your peer group if you can. Other ways can be to get a mentor or a role-model to mimic. The hardest part is often to recognise that you can change. This is also called of having a fixed mindset. Or playing the blame game.
To get out you have to do what Derek Sivers says: Purge The Vampires! And upgrade your peer group. You are standing beside the river are envious on those to seem to swim so easily in it.
2 – By Me – Go Get It Mode
This is when you have a Go get it attitude towards the world. You are trying to take full control of the reins of your life, bending everything around you to your will. You set goals and you go after them. You have given up blame and started coming more into a growth mindset. You take personal responsibility for your future. To jump in the river and swim against the current.
Life happens by you. This will often result in clash of wills and conflict of interest. To level up from this mode you often need more wisdom and influence of kindness. It can be done by just starting to give more.
3 – Through Me – Flow Mode
You start seeing the world more like a flow state. Life happens through you. You are losing up your need for control. You start building your network by giving instead of taking. In some magical way, the more you give the more things are stating flow back to you. Life happens for you. You start have faith in those around you and you start building trust.
Here is also differs a little from Robert Kegan’s view as you can reach this level of understanding at a you age and still not had time to make all synapse connection in your brains that come with wisdom. Still you will reach his 4th level of the ‘Self-Authoring’ Mind much quicker by being in this mindset.
You start getting the river to work for you. You use the current and the winds to take you not in a straight line but to unexpected places by being open to change and by being curious. You can more easily let go of the FOMO. You stop chasing goals and trust the direction, the journey and the dreams of your life.
You level up yourself and elevate everyone around you. The world is no longer a zero sum game. With the help of mindfulness to take your mind further. You take you core group with you on your journey.
4 – As Me – Oneness Mode
You become one with the universe, Literally. As everything in the universe affect everything else.
See yourself in everything else. A conscious unity with everything around you. Get into oneness with the universe.
Give up the illusion of separateness! – Peter Sage
This is of course not a state you can be in all the time. It’s a journey. Towards unconditional love. You enter this mode as often as you can through various activities like meditation and mindfulness. Here is where is model differs from Kegan’s model too. But the more connected your mind becomes when entering the ‘Self-Authoring’ Mind and the ‘Self-Transforming’ Mind mode the more easy it will become to enter As Me thinking.
There is also the other way into this way of experience the world, that can entered by switching on what Jonathan Hadit calls “The Hive-Switch” in the mind. You do this by doing things like experience Awe of nature. Some other ways to activate this mode in the brains is to take psilocybin or getting into trance dancing rave.
I think they are very related.
Hack The Future
You can’t solve a problem on the same level thinking that created the problem – Albert Einstein
And that sums up they way to actually build a better future. We climb both the ladders above. Both Peter’s description on how we experience the world and Kegan’s thinking on how we grow our minds.
To change a behaviour you need a new emotional level of understanding. To shift your thinking from a goal to an identity. Working with identities is very powerful. Have identity shifts. redefine your current identities and make up new ones.
The strongest force in human personality is the need to remain consistent with how you define yourself, your identity – Peter Sage & Tony Robinson
So set yourself for the win. Get the right peer groups and mentors that enforces the shift in identity and behaviour. If you can’t find a mentor do what I and many, many more people have done throughout history
– -> Read their books. And in recent years we also have access to fantastic mind-boggling podcasts and online lecture video talks like TED and Talks at Google and many more. This how I have spent the last 4 years leveling up my mind and thinking.
And put yourself in the right environment.
If you are trying to eat less sugar. Don’t have sugar at home and don’t hang around people drinking soda. Don’t define yourself as a recovering sugar addict. Be a happy life-hacker and spend time with other health hackers.
If you want to start exercising more. Pack your back the night before and define yourself as a fitness person. Hang out with people training and join them for a group exercise.
In the right environment we also connect our brain to other brains. That is how we elevate our brains, minds and thinking. We do it in a network. All standing on the giants who came before us. And now as change are speeding up we also build on the giants that are climbing with us side by side.
Go find a mastermind group or a creative hub or cluster and spend time with the brains there!
To elevate your life, spend time with other people elevating their lives and yours. And do return the favor in kind by elevating them back.
I also want mention Theory.U like Tess does. It is three principal ways to approach the world. Through Open Mind – Open Heart and Open Will.
Having an Open Mind means you have a curious approach to the world. Being curious and asking a lot of interesting and dumb question opens up for creativity. The opposite of judging.
This is opening up and being vulnerable. To practice your compassion towards others and try to understand what you and they are feeling. To have an Open Heart towards the world.
To have the courage to do what is right. And not give in, into the fear of the tribe ostracizing you. Be brave and have an Open Will.
And find a tribe that encourages all this behavior.
I’m Captain Future